Depending on your relationship with your intended parents, you may wonder if it’s okay to ask them for help during your pregnancy. After all, they are already paying for a lot of expenses that go into a surrogate pregnancy. But, chances are that helping you out will increase their involvement in the pregnancy and help them to feel connected to their baby sooner.
Here are some ideas to consider.
Spend time together. Depending on how geographically close you are to them, you may be able to get together quite frequently. Think about meeting for lunch or shopping for maternity clothes or for the baby together. It’s a great way to bond over what’s most important to both of you.
Help with chores. If you get to the point in your pregnancy where it’s difficult to get around, or if you are tired or on bedrest, don’t hesitate to ask for help. Your IPs may be able to offer a house cleaner to come in and give you some relief.
Stay relaxed. There are spa treatments that are fine for pregnant women and can help reduce stress. Pregnancy massage is one option, as well as pedicures, as it gets tougher to reach your feet on your own. If your IPs live close, they can even join you, which is a great way to bond. Also, it won’t hurt them to get a little relaxation time in before the chaos of adding a newborn to your household.
Meal delivery. As your pregnancy progresses, especially if you are working or raising a family, you can be pretty tired by dinnertime. Your IPs may be happy to provide gift cards to some of your favorite restaurants that deliver to keep you happy and well rested.
Stay connected. If you start to feel anxious or isolated, don’t hesitate to ask your IPs to stay in closer touch. Chances are, they would be happy to be as involved in the pregnancy as possible, but they may want to give you your space. Let them know you welcome their interaction, so they will feel free to reach out.
Gestational surrogacy is a big undertaking, both physically and mentally. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. Your IPs, your agency, and your loved ones are all invested in your success. If you have questions about making your surrogacy journey as smooth and stress-free as possible, contact the experts at Surrogate Solutions.