If you have made the decision to work with a surrogacy agency to create your family, or are still in the exploratory stages, you may wonder how to go about finding the right surrogate. You want someone who is physically and mentally healthy, and ideally, it will be someone you like. After all, this is someone you are establishing a relationship with, one that may last only a year, but could very well last a lifetime. This is a person who starts as a stranger, but could soon be responsible for the most important thing in your life, so it should be someone you can form a bond with. Here’s what you should know.
There are several ways to find women interested in becoming a surrogate. Some intended parents look to online forums or classified ads. They may contact an attorney who specializes in reproductive law.
Ultimately, the best way to find a great surrogate is to partner with a surrogacy agency you are confident you can trust.
When working with a surrogacy agency, it’s still up to you to perform due diligence before you get started and throughout the process.
Begin by investigating the agency itself. Select at least three finalists and ask questions like these:
- How long have you been in business?
- How many successful surrogate relationships have you had?
- How do you select your surrogates?
Once you and the agency decide to work together, you will be connected with potential surrogates. You should ask them plenty of questions to get to know them. Here are a few to help you decide if a surrogate is the right one for you.
Why do you want to be a surrogate? This question will give you a better idea of who the surrogate is and what motivates them. Find out if this is their first time as a surrogate.
Tell me about your previous pregnancies. An experienced agency will have taken care of this question from a medical and psychological perspective. As a prospective parent, you may want to learn a bit more about their attitude and emotional perspective.
Do you have the support of your friends and family? Pregnancy is stressful enough. Knowing you have a support system in place can make all the difference. Even with the best precautions and medical care, things can go wrong. You want to know your surrogate won’t be excessively stressed if they end up on best rest or can spend as much time with their children as they did before the pregnancy.
What questions do you have for us? Ideally, she will have plenty. You want her to take the prospect of surrogacy seriously and be interested in learning as much as possible about the intended parents she will be helping to start a family.
At Surrogate Solutions, our specialty is working closely with intended families and surrogates to make the perfect match for each of them. If you would like to learn more about creating a family through gestational surrogacy, contact the team at Surrogate Solutions.