Arguably the most important piece of the puzzle in any surrogacy journey is finding the right match between the Intended Parents and the Surrogate. Due to the intimate, sensitive climate of surrogacy, it is imperative for both parties involved to be on the same page in regards to preferences, values, and expectations throughout the journey together. Working with an experienced and compassionate agency like Surrogate Solutions is the best way to ensure you find your perfect match; however, your perfect match may not be located in the same city or even the same state.
Long distance surrogacy may sound daunting at first, but it is actually quite common and very workable. While it may not seem to be an ideal situation, many long distance Surrogates and IPs alike have found working across distance to be a surprisingly smooth experience. With that said, it is imperative to consider some potential concerns that may arise when working with a long distance Surrogate, especially if different states are involved. Before you match with a long distance Surrogate, take some time to consider the following:
- Planning ahead. Planning is a huge portion of any surrogacy journey, but it becomes even more vital when distance comes into play. Depending how far away your Surrogate lives, you will want to lock in your travel plans for when the baby is born including transportation, hotel arrangements, and time off from work if needed.
- Legal knowledge. Surrogacy laws are different from state to state so it is important to be aware of these laws, both in your own state as well as your Surrogate’s. The best way to keep on top of these laws and make sure you are not missing anything is to partner with a surrogacy attorney who specializes in state laws. This is something your surrogacy agency will be able to help navigate!
- Relationship expectations. These should always be addressed during the matching process to be fully aware of expectations ahead of time. Sometimes IPs will want to attend check-ups with the Surrogate or even grab lunch together from time to time to get to know one another. If the IPs and the Surrogate both desire this type of relationship for their surrogacy journey, they may need to brainstorm alternative bonding methods when frequent travel is not an option.
While long distance surrogacy may not be the top choice for many Surrogates or IPs, it may be the best option for an ideal match. Surrogate Solutions brings decades of experience when it comes to finding the best matches for Surrogates and IPs. Whether your Surrogate lives across the county or across the country, Gayle and her team are available to make sure your surrogacy journey is both a smooth and happy one. If you are looking for additional information on how to manage a long distance gestational surrogacy or where to find a surrogacy attorney, contact Surrogate Solutions today!