Parent’s Involvement in a Surrogate Pregnancy


There are so many decisions that intended parents face once they decide to travel down the road of surrogacy. It is no surprise that the decision to turn to a surrogate to have the baby of your dreams is not one without concerns about how the pregnancy itself (and the relationship with the surrogate) will be handled. However, we understand that in making such a personal and important choice, some matters are strictly of the heart and cannot be handled in any other way.

Once intended parents have decided to try gestational surrogacy and they have been matched with a surrogate, the first question many intended parents have is ‘how involved will we be with the surrogate during the pregnancy?’The answer to that question is almost too simple – it’s entirely up to the parents.  You can be with your surrogate every step of the way from appointments at the IVF clinic, to OB appointments, to even attending birthing classes together. This journey you are on with your surrogate is an open invitation to start your parenting while your child is in the womb.

This personal decision is one all parents face, but their choice depends on individual comfort levels and desires. However, we have found that many surrogates are eager to build a close bond with the intended parents because they realize how important it is to be included in the pregnancy.  Many surrogates and intended parents maintain lifelong friendships and keep in contact throughout the child’s life.

Alternatively, some surrogates and intended parents prefer a relatively low level of contact and do not necessarily desire a close relationship. Some matches opt instead for occasional updates and phone calls; oftentimes this is a result of location and physical distance. Because of these very different and personal scenarios, it is important that the intended parents and surrogate discuss what would be a desirable level of contact between the parties throughout the pregnancy and after the birth.

Surrogate Solutions understands the sensitivity of the position and is certain to take the intended parents’ and surrogate’s thoughts, feelings, and wishes into consideration prior to making a match. If you would like to discuss this process in greater depth, please feel free to contact Surrogate Solutions today.

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