Surrogacy can be a dream come true for many couples wishing to have a family of their own. Although the baby is genetically the child of the Intended Parents, many couples find themselves struggling with fears of being unable to bond and connect with their baby due to not being able to carry him or her through a traditional pregnancy. While these feelings are absolutely natural and understood, rest assured that you will still be able to bond with your baby in a very natural way. Your connection with your baby will begin to grow and develop gradually through everyday care once you are home, including:

• Interaction. Respond to your baby when he or she is feeling upset as well as happy. This will help you build a strong bond of love and trust, as well as help your baby thrive from your attention and affection. Talk to your baby, answer his or her cries, make eye contact, and smile.  Interactions such as these contribute to much more in addition the building of your bond; they also assist in the growth and development of your baby’s brain.

• Touch. Newborn babies bond primarily through touch and smell, so skin to skin contact is highly recommended and encouraged as soon as possible. Hold your baby close and cuddle with him or her often. Baby massage may also help with the bonding process. As you massage your baby, you will begin to learn to read his or her cues and it will become natural to chat and make eye contact. Bathing and playing with your baby will also contribute to forming and strengthening your bond.

It is important to keep in mind that bonding is an individual experience that will happen at its own pace. Whether you bond with your baby immediately or it takes you some time to get to know one another, rest assured that as you learn to soothe him or her and enjoy your baby’s presence, your feelings of connection will deepen and your bond will strengthen. If you are considering surrogacy and are looking for a caring and experienced sounding board of resources to discuss your questions, concerns, or excitement, do not hesitate to contact the professionals at Surrogate Solutions today!