It’s increasingly difficult to remain a private person in a connected world. Make the wrong social media decisions and you can adversely impact your ability to become a surrogate and erode intended parents’ confidence in you as a caring and reliable carrier for their child.
Choosing a surrogate is a difficult decision for IPs, so view your internet presence through their eyes and see if you would entrust your family with the person you see.
Before Your Journey Begins.
If you are considering becoming a surrogate, now is the time to clean up your digital act. Start by Googling yourself to see what comes up, because that is the first thing the surrogacy agency and any intended parents will do.
Go through any social media you participate in and either remove controversial material or adjust your settings so questionable posts are not accessible. Locking your profiles down entirely is possible, but it could appear that you have no social media presence at all, which could also be suspicious.
Update your LinkedIn account to reflect your professionalism. Examine your Facebook profile for items like spring break pictures, political rants, etc. If you wouldn’t share it with your grandmother at Thanksgiving dinner, don’t share it on Facebook if you are trying to become a surrogate.
Change your settings so that you have to approve before someone uploads or tags a picture of you. If your Twitter account can be traced back to your real name, remove any questionable posts. Feel free to delete your dormant MySpace account.
Once You Become a Surrogate.
As a surrogate, you are still your own person, with your own life, interests and friends, but entering a surrogate agreement makes you part of the intended parents’ family in a way. They take an interest in how you present yourself.
Don’t give them any reason to worry. Don’t post the sorts of pictures or updates listed above that will call into question your good judgment and reliability.
Get on the same page with your intended parents. Your pregnancy is, in a way, shared because you are carrying their child. Discuss if they are comfortable with you posting ultrasound or “baby bump” pictures or posting updates about the pregnancy online. Also find out if your agency has any established policies in this regard.
If you have questions about social media and surrogacy or if you would like to learn more about becoming a surrogate, contact us at Surrogate Solutions today! We are here to answer any questions that will make your surrogacy experience a happy and rewarding one.