The experience of a failed embryo transfer is a disheartening, yet realistic possibility for Intended Parents beginning their surrogacy journey. In most cases, the IVF transfer’s success will be known within 10 days of the transfer. Although the IVF process is not 100% successful, hearing the news that the transfer did not result in a pregnancy can be very discouraging, which is why it is so imperative to not make any rash decisions.
While surrogacy is an exciting time and often the answer to making many Intended Parents’ dreams come true, it is important to remember that IVF transfers do not always work on the first try; many couples find themselves going through multiple IVF cycles before becoming pregnant. Fortunately, a failed transfer does not mean the journey is over. It is a merely a roadblock or detour on your path to building your family! In the event of a failed IVF transfer, it is extremely important to take a deep breath and remember the following:
- Speak candidly with your doctor. Your physician may have some insight on what caused the transfer to fail. Poor embryo quality, uterine lining, and genetic issues can all be contributors. Proper medical advice is the best help when it comes to understanding the best way to move forward.
- Trust your agency. When you work with a surrogacy agency, you can trust that you have been matched with a healthy surrogate who has passed all the prescreening exams, both physically and psychologically. It is important to keep in mind that not every embryo transfer will result in a pregnancy and not let it bring you down.
- Help your surrogate. Bed rest is recommended for the first 48 hours following IVF transfer. If you try for a second transfer, do what you can to help out your surrogate during their down-time. Consider running errands for your surrogate, preparing meals for her family, or even taking care of the laundry. Not only will your surrogate appreciate your gestures, you will also have peace of mind knowing that she is following doctor’s orders!
Surrogacy is never a certain process and the better your understanding of it, the better you will be able to plan your next steps. Surrogate Solutions recognizes that building your family can be challenging and finds joy in guiding Intended Parents throughout their journey. For more information on the surrogacy process or to find the surrogate who is the best match for your family, please contact us at Surrogate Solutions today!